What makes a good friend, what qualities should they have? Courage when fear is the logical expression, loyalty when the world comes against you, love when you can’t even love yourself, and one who will carry you when you are too weak to stand.
What makes a good friend? A good friend is someone who will stand up against you if your ideas are ill advised, who will stop you from hurting yourself even at the cost of friendship itself. A friend is a sister or a brother, whom you hand pick to stay by your side, these people are to be cherished for they would lay down their own life.
A good friend is a 3 am phone call when they have work at 7 because you just can’t find the will to live and you need someone to tell you that you matter. A good friend is the person that forces you to eat 20 chicken nuggets when you haven’t eaten for a week because that girl broke you in half. A good friend is always there, even when they aren’t. They are there in the back of your head, they send you encouraging and funny texts, and they talk to you when they can.
Good friends are often busy, but that doesn’t make them any less of a friend, life is tough, and adulthood is a troubling journey. It’s important to find someone who will stand by you in the good times and the bad.
God holds me up, and He is the best friend there is, so why does God send us friends? God sends us good friends so that we will turn back to Him and away from the things that distract us from what matters.
I leave you with a few verses on friendship and an explanation for each.
Proverbs 13:20 NIV He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harms.
This verse teaches us to seek friends who will allow us to grow rather than hinder us and teach us the ways of wrong. Surround yourself with friends who breed good rather than evil.
John 15:13 NIV Greater Love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.
This verse is a simple as can be, a good friend is prepared to lay down their life so that another could live. Simply put, to be a good friend but them before yourself. Be careful however not to sacrifice yourself unnecessarily, there is a happy medium between selfishness and constant sacrificial behavior.
Proverbs 27:17 NIV As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another
A good friend sharpens those around them, and teaches that which is good.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 NIV Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work; If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!
We are called to pick one another up, who will pick us up if we have no friend? Much can get done with good friends, together we can lighten up this dark world.
Proverbs 15:22 NIV Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.
We should be able to have faith in Good friends that they will guide is towards correct and Godly decisions. Counsel is necessary when making decisions we must be faithful in prayer, but also seek the opinion of our like minded friends. We must be careful however to never be led astray.